Therapy or not, wanting to be listened to, understood and cared for is really the baseline for a relationship. The lady in the other state sounds like she's single for a reason. Online dating can be great because it allows people to slowly open up (assuming they are telling the truth and not spinning lie after lie) and it can save a lot of nonsense in the long run.

Whether you're in therapy, or have issues or not, dating involves dodging a lot of frogs (if you can avoid kissing them that's all to the good.)