Previously, approximately a month ago, I wrote a topic about being depressed due to my breakup with my ex. I was really suffering. Since then, I have had my ups and downs but decided I need to actively try to make things better for myself outside of meds. Started exercising more, took a 30 mile bike ride yesterday with a nice picnic. Anyway...

After feeling as though I wasn't depressed over my ex anymore (who some of you commented it sounded like she was exhibiting more borderline tendencies than bipolar...she was originally diagnosed borderline then switched to bipolar with rapid cycling). I decided to reach out to her. Not to reconcile, not to be friends but because one of the children missed her so much she was crying wondering what she did wrong that my ex won't be her "friend" anymore.

Saturday I called my ex and we spoke for 15 minutes. She brought up on her own that it was awkward when we saw one another at work and I agreed it was weird. She brought up on her own that she could not be my friend right now and the relationship was over and she was doing "really, REALLY good". I let her know I was only calling for the child in question and it was weird with work and the issue of the relationship is moot because I have moved on and am talking to someone else. She said we could say hello at work and be friendly. I agreed and said I understood, said to have a great weekend and hung up.

While at work today I sent an email to my ex giving her encouragement about some difficult work stuff she had coming up. 4 hours later I check my email and I see one from her that says not to contact her, she is going to show her supervisor and tell on me to my supervisor and executive director. I am 35 years old and a professional, she is 31. My career is my livelihood. I was shocked. How, in less than 48 hours, did I go from talking to someone who wants to be friendly when we see one another at work and be amicable to someone threatening (like a child) to tell on me for writing an encouraging email?!?! I am completely dumbfounded. I immediately went to my Executice Director to alert her of the situation and let her read the email I sent. I also told my supervisor who knew some of the situation. They both shook their heads and apologized I am having to deal with this and said how sweet the email was. They assured me if her supervisor called that she had no ground to stand on and all it did was make her look highly unprofessional and that they stand behind me 100%.

Oddly enough I don't feel depressed about this, like I normally would. I feel more sad for my ex and choosing to bring work into the equation and somehow get me in trouble or fired from my job. Mostly I feel embarrassed having to explain this to my ED and supervisor. I have apologized profusely.

My question is basically WTF?! How, in less than 48 hours, do I have someone telling me it's awkward in work situations and let's say hello and someday let's try to be friends to me saying I was strictly calling for the children and I've moved on and I understand and then writing a dang encouraging email to someone reacting this way? What did I do?! Obviously I won't be contacting her EVER again but shoot....what did I do wrong so I won't ever do it again?!