Any kind of information like that from a DIL usually only causes problems & doesn't help....creates an adversarial relationship that usually progresses from bad to worse.

I tried to communicate the issues that my H had......after I finally left him & he had totally blown it with the IRS on my inheritance money.....the T I was seeing at the time & had told him everything about my marriage had suggested there was a great chance even though they can't dx without the person being there....but with all I said about him...it sounded like H was dealing with asperger's....... their precious son....possibly with Asperger's......I was the devil incarnate & how dare I leave him....he was the one who had tolerated me all those years & put up with my depression....little did any of us realize at that time...but all my suicide attempts were because of the marriage I felt trapped in...but it took years after I finally got out of it to realize the connection.......but I was the one to blame that their son had so many issues at work......ostriches stick their head in the sand & can't figure out why their rear ends keep getting kicked. But Inlaws hate for DIL's to tell them anything bad about their son's no matter what even if it's true.