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Originally Posted by ThisWayOut
it's all about why you are in therapy. if you are seeking general every-day support around ambiguous life problems, "go with the flow" might be what you are looking for. If you go in with specific short-term goals, then certainly look for a T that will help with those goals...
If you ask a T about goals, and they give ambiguous answers that do not satisfy you, then look for another T.
If I'm going to a dentist for an annual check-up and expect everything to be fine, I'm good with "going with the flow", but if I went to a dentist for severe tooth pain, I'd want a clear treatment plan to meet my goal of getting rid of my tooth pain.
I think people forget that everyone goes to therapy with different goals and ideals. If you don't like the service you are getting (as with any paid service), find another provider.
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Unfortunately, the equivalent of 'going with the flow' for a dentist, would be a dentist just sort of nodding at your teeth and then telling you that while he doesn't necessarily know how to fix anything about teeth, he does understand that you think they are sore, and he's very interested in the fact that they are sore, and maybe they're sore because when you were five someone gave you too much candy. And if you ask him if he knows how to fix sore teeth he says he can't tell you precisely how he could fix sore teeth, but if you just come back every week, he'll give it a good go.
And you're right, obviously if I don't like the service, I'm free to leave. But that's not the point, is it? I took on this service in good faith. I've sunk cold hard cash into it, and for what... nothing.
It does seem an awful lot though like this forum is dedicated to people who aren't getting any service. (Because the service being sold is intangible, and ephemeral and can in no way be stated directly.)