I don't post on here very often but this thread really got my attention. I'm going through a similar situation, my therapist is leaving the community mental health clinic I go to after a year of seeing her. Because she wants no contact with me after she leaves I feel rejected and that I'm not good enough or that I'm "other". Even though I knew this would happen when she left, it still hurts and it feels cruel. To do this to people is complete ********. It's also because I'm so alone and feel like I don't matter to anyone in this world that it's really hard to deal with. I even suspect that this entire therapeutic relationship was a total lie and I was sucked into this attachment.

I thought some might find this post I put up on Mad in America interesting.

Mainstream therapy, psychology or whatever name you want to give it, is by its very nature, cold, uncaring, and cruel and does little to actually change people, the way they feel about themselves or their circumstances.

I believe the core problem underneath so called "mental illness," is the belief by the person suffering is that they are not loved, valued or accepted for who they truly are. The symptoms of this may be manifested in different ways. Some will create a reality of their own to escape into a imaginary world , some will become extremely depressed, in others they may be violent or have intense hatred for other people, Some will become narcissistic to make up for the core belief they are not good enough. The reasons for developing this belief can vary but many in cases it stems from childhood abuse, physical or sexual, neglect, or all of the above. For others it maybe that some just can't live up to society’s standards of attractiveness, relationships, or financial success . The reasons can be complicated.

Therapists are taught never to reveal anything about themselves so there's no relating with the client. They can never be friends with the client even if they want to. They can't give or except gifts. In other words a therapist is supposed to have a wall between the person their suppose to be helping and themselves. True love and compassion is to never be shown and it is real love that really changes a person. Some will attempt to show these things during the sessions but love without any action is dead and meaningless. Sometimes the client will come away from the session feeling a little better but ultimately they know deep down inside the therapist probably doesn't really care about them or at least that's the message communicated by following these ridiculous rules. Maybe some therapists actually like it this way since it means they don't actually have to do anything except prescribe meds and listen to the client. Some therapists are extremely fake and can't stand the client and laughs at them behind their back even after the person has opened up to them about embarrassing personnel traumas. In the real world we would call this cruel but psychotherapy considers this ethical standard practice.

In many cases the client will come away feeling even more hurt, uncared for, and even traumatized after going to therapy. Sometimes the client may even commit suicide. But Psychology is never held accountable; it's always the clients fault. In some ways it's almost similar to a abused victim being blamed for their own abuse.

The mental health system needs serious change but the problem is those who work in it seem completely ignorant or don't care about the pain they cause.

By the way I don't mean to cause any one else to doubt their own therapy but I'm in a lot of pain, hurt and a little angry.