Oh okay. Your post was right after mine and I thought something about my post had upset you. I have struggled with my own reaction towards BPD and borderline traits because of my mom most likely having the traits (perhaps met the criteria for a full diagnosis at some point also) and also at one point a therapist had told me I might have some traits, which had upset me at the time.

So in my struggles with this label, I have at times minimized it though more often I've done the exact opposite, see it as something bigger than life, something that dominates how I feel about mom, my family, my past, etc, almost as if it's a physical presence. I have had some difficulties with my therapists trying to come to terms with it and see it for what it is, not bigger nor smaller.