I must be lucky because I've been diagnosed with BPD by at least 4 Ts but the diagnosis hasn't caused me any trouble. I don't exhibit any of the extreme behaviors you listed, ihj. My Ts never talked much about it though I realized there is a stigma about having this diagnosis. One T used to sometimes generalize that "borderlines do this", borderlines do that, and she wouldn't hug me just on the basis of my diagnosis. The other 4 Ts didn't use the term at all, except to confirm that they agreed. My current T says she hates labels. She did agree DBT would be good for me, but so what? I don't think about my diagnosis much. You're not a diagnosis! You're YOU.