I have this problem more with my psychiatrist than I did with the therapist. I went to therapy because my psychiatrist told me to. But I specifically asked him what he wanted me to work on in therapy, and all he told me is I have a tendency to intellectualize. Everything else "would come out" in therapy, he said.

Jeez, dude, be a little more unclear, could you? "There's stuff wrong with you, but I'm not gonna tell you what it is, just ambiguously allude to it."

I looked up intellectualizing and found it is one of the healthiest coping mechanisms. Why on earth would I want to change that?

So I went into therapy with the idea that "there's apparently something wrong with me, but I have no idea what, much less any idea whether I agree it's something that needs to change." Wasted hundreds of dollars because the guy wouldn't be straightforward with me.