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Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987
I wouldn't disclose anything. I have been married a long time and have deep regrets sharing things with him. He's not a horrible person, but he will use those things against me in moments of anger. It's just not worth having things thrown back at me. I figure most everyone has some kind of trauma or painful issue in their past anyway. I know he does.
I don't think it's anyone's business really.
It would be wonderful if people were empathetic and understanding about things like this, but the reality is most people aren't. They care about themselves and don't want to deal with someone else's issues. It's just human nature. I've gotten a lot more cold and cynical about this over the past couple of years. I used to think people cared. I don't think that anymore.
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(((Pbug)))
Your H may not be a horrible person (neither is my stbx), but using your weaknesses and hurt against you is a horrible thing for an intimate partner to do. It's emotional abuse. Call him on it, it's not right that he should do that to you.
You sound an awful lot like I did a few years back in this post
People do care, as I'm learning. I get completely overwhelmed at times when I realize just how much.
