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Originally Posted by NewLyfeForReal
OP, talk to your boyfriend about how you feel. If you bottle up your feelings they will only continue to hurt you. Tell your boyfriend that you're there for him and that he can open up to you and trust you - he need not be afraid you will start useless fights. Especially if he has been in any relationships in the past in which there was a lot of fighting it may take some time for him to fully accept that this relationship will be different. Sometimes it's hard to accept when a good thing comes along - you try to look for faults when you should spend more time looking at the good.
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Thanks a lot for your comment and that is very true. I think he is looking for faults without even realizing. I know he wouldn't do it on purpose and I do need to say something to him about that.
I was thinking about that earlier actually on the part of telling him to open up more on his fears because I am not going to bite him in the face back. lol. I think he has some fear of abandonment too that he needs to realize pushes the other person away too; it sure does reverse affect on what their intensions are.
A lot of the times someone who has put themselves in more of a positive mindset doesn't see the others perspective as well if they are thinking more negative. I admit I am more optimistic and can overlook him quite often, which isn't the greatest. Which I am working on that myself.