I dont think you are hurting yourself. You have come here, described issues, and said you didnt want to continue the relationship if these issues couldnt be worked out. Then you go back and talk to him, and you work them out, usually by him admitting he was... out of line. If you were hurting yourself, i think you would be more afraid to lose him? I think he should be grateful he has found someone who sees and appreciates his value (and vice versa). Besides, it is still pretty early in the relationship, just four months. There would or should not be major life decisions coming up this soon, one would hope!