What kind of t tells you to go to church? Why is that even on the table? Why is that even part of this discussion? Isnt that church stuff? Im not yelling (really im not!), I just dont mix church stuff and psychotherapy stuff. Now i cant tell if you are complaining about church stuff (if he was a minister type t) or psychology stuff. I dont want to defend psychotherapy against things the church said. That IS mixing apples and oranges.

As for ts giving you advice, they just tell you at the beginning to say whatever comes to mind. Everybody here edits. "Should i tell t this? Im not ready to tell t that. I dont think this other thing is important." I get that its hard to say stuff. But to pursue the dentist metaphor again, the more you open your mouth, the better the doc can help you.

If you are currently seeing your abuser (in my case my ancient mother), it makes it harder to see your t as being with you, not against you, imo. Its easier to argue with your t than with your abuser, but it ultimately doesnt change anything in your life. It just makes you feel a little better for a while, maybe. But youre just burning money. Your t doesnt need to change. They probably are not even like that - they are just reenacting your situation, trying to get you to look for other solutions. Or ask for their help - they are another set of eyes on the problem.

I just dont think all this complaining about ts helps. I would rather see posts about DOES work, not what doesnt. I wouldnt expect to see posts about like eating cookies on a weight loss website

There is TONS of science. Read a book. Google something.