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Originally Posted by SkyscraperMeow
'Manipulative' or 'toxic' are single world thought terminating cliches. They're something you call someone when you can't be bothered thinking about their problems any more, or dealing with their issues any more and you want to write them off in a way that will make other people suspicious of them.
As someone more on the staggeringly blunt end of the spectrum, I get different words thrown at me when people want to stop dealing with an issue at hand, but it's the same thing.
Those terms tell you more about the person using them than you. (Assuming, of course, you haven't been engaging in a Machivellian plot to undermine Western civilization or some such thing.)
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You are right. (Read this as sarcasm). I use the word manipulative to describe my husband of 28 years, the father of my three children, the love of my life, the man who I have stood by through thick and thin, because I "can't be bothered thinking about [his] problems any more," and I "want to write [him] him off in a way that will make other people suspicious of [him]." My use of those terms as descriptors clearly tell you all about me.
( end of sarcasm). Your use of your words is offensive to someone who has worked patiently and tirelessly to remain supportive and understanding in the face of those kinds of behaviors. I have written off no one. You may or may not have meant to point those words at me, but they were stated as absolutes without exception rather than your personal experience or possibilities, so I am bringing to your attention the fact that your broad statement is not universally true.