Hello AusTexan, I read your profile and your previous posts. With experiences through your profession, It looks like you are already quite knowledgeable about your wife's struggles and how everyone is effected by them. I'm very sure the consequences are still painful for you even with all that you probably know.

I hope things turn around for you. Both my x-husband and I are ACoA... I was getting help and he really did not want to..but he was aware he had struggles (he wanted me to fix myself). My dream was that he finally would want to figure out how to make our lives better and get help as well. That did not happen.

I learned a lot!!!!!!!!!!! I have no regrets about the marriage but I am much happier than I have ever been - and not because he is gone...but I have learned how to manage my life and over time change my way of thinking - for me - better late than never.

I wonder if it harder to understand it from a mental health perspective and know you cannot make it better for her.

I am so sorry that this is what is happening in your life right now. I'm sure you know this without me saying it... but your journey is whatever - you make it - whatever age you are.