Thank you all for the very validating, (and complementary) responses. It is just so awesome to hear that I am not alone and also to hear that I may have expressed something that meant something to somebody else. The beauty of this forum. It saddens me though that we go through this. But having a hand (metaphorically) to hold makes a ton of difference. Especially when the owner of that hand actually KNOWS what you are going through. They aren't just trying to SUPPORT you.

There is tons of talk out there from the mental health profession etc about having a support system and support and support this that and the other thing and people love to say support. I support you...you need more support...go here or there for this wonderful support.

And yes we need support.

But what really really helps for me is

BEING UNDERSTOOD