Life is chalk full of catch 22's. So, your T catagorized based upon word choice? I was talking about a relationship I had 20 years ago as a pattern discussion, and woosh...I was labeled insecure. I said, hey, that was me...etc...

As far as censoring, I try to just be how i am, online, irl. I'm going to be liked and unliked no matter what. Have a woman at work, who has resorted to calling a few staff members sunshine because that's how my boss greets me, in the morning. She's mistaken my kindness for confusion with work ethic, i digress...

I say just do what's right for you...can't tiptoe everywhere, then you're left unhappy...