Rage – This is an intense, furious anger that comes out of nowhere, usually over nothing (remember the wire hanger scene from the movie “Mommie Dearest”). It startles and shocks the victim into compliance or silence.

This is something my husband has done with me, I never know how he is going to be when he comes home either. Unfortunately, now that I suffer from PTSD "I" can have this kind of anger, however, it comes from a genuine "trigger" from being a victim.

Gaslighting – Narcissistic mental abusers lie about the past, making their victim doubt her memory, perception, and sanity. They claim and give evidence of her past wrong behavior further causing doubt. She might even begin to question what she said a minute ago.
Oh this is something my husband AND my older sister did and sometimes still do. I have also met other individuals like this in the horse world too, there are lot of these kind of individuals drawn to that world that are like this, very controlling and manipulative. My sister has really done this really well and gained a lot of control with my elderly parents. With the PTSD, I just can't fight this and work with my T to find ways to manage how the PTSD gets so triggered by this challenge.

The Stare – This is an intense stare with no feeling behind it. It is designed to scare a victim into submission, and is frequently mixed with the silent treatment.

This is what my older sister does, and when I read this it brought up some flashbacks, especially when she sat across from me in the psych ward, that cold stare that cut right through me as I was sitting there with PTS chills, not even understanding "why" I was having the chills/shakes, or what post traumatic stress was.

Silent Treatment – Narcissists punish by ignoring. Then they lets their victim “off the hook” by demanding an apology even though she isn’t to blame. This is to modify her behavior. They also have a history of cutting others out of their life permanently over small things.

Yes, this is what my sister did, actually goes way back, she is four years older, always had to be the boss or I would, and still do get this silent treatment or "shunned" my husband did this too, especially when he was an active binge alcoholic

Projection – They dump their issues onto their victim as if she were the one doing it. For instance, narcissistic mental abusers may accuse their spouse of lying when they have lied. Or they make her feel guilty when he is really guilty. This creates confusion.
Again, this is what my older sister did and does and my husband as well. Sadly, this is what my neighbors also do, try to blame me for "their" negligence. What triggers me is Lawyers will question in this way to try to twist and confuse to gain whatever they can in "their" favor.

Twisting – When narcissistic spouses are confronted, they will twist it around to blame their victims for their actions. They will not accept responsibility for their behavior and insist that their victim apologize to them.

Oh boy, this is one that my husband did and even still does at times, my older sister did this a lot too. The PTSD does get severely triggered when this happens with me now. My husband did this a lot when he was an active binge alcoholic.

Manipulation – A favorite manipulation tactic is for the narcissist to make their spouse fear the worst, such as abandonment, infidelity, or rejection. Then they refute it and ask her for something she normally would reply with “No.” This is a control tactic to get her to agree to do something she wouldn’t.

This was not a threat, it was just done for real.

Victim Card – When all else fails, the narcissist resorts to playing the victim card. This is designed to gain sympathy and further control behavior.

This was practiced by both my husband and older sister. I just did not have a chance, I truely was outnumbered. I have had others do this with me too, it was always a cover up when they wanted something I had and failed to manipulate me to get it.
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The cruelest part in all of this is once something really bad takes place and the person developes PTSD, now it really gets to be "all her fault". Oh yes, look at her, yeah she is nuts, told ya.

One of the hardest things for me is how in my lawsuit I have been consistently told "not" to talk about how I "do" suffer from PTSD, because it will be used against me. Well, a person doesn't develope PTSD unless they actually "do" witness something "bad" take place.

I did not know "where" to post this, only that I needed to post this. What I do know is when someone really does break, these people are not sympathetic or supportive. They do not have the true capacity to listen and actually have "empathy".