Ok, Seeyalater, that is fine.

I am going to present another link that you should keep in mind. When you talked about your husbands behaviors at first many posters advised you to leave him. The reason for that is self explanitory in this thread and even I had wondered "if" your husband did have this problem early in your thread.

I have already posted "abandonment" challenges, which is what I feel your husband is dealing with. However, one of the things that can be a challenge is that "some" individuals become narcissists because they have had abandonment take place in their past/childhoods. It can get very confusing, I know. I have been working on this with my therapist myself as my husband has expressed several of the traits and I have an older sister that has also practiced this with me as well.

I think that this list is important for you to have, just to keep in mind if your efforts to "help" your husband somehow fail and he continues to present these unhealthy behavior patterns. Once you read it you will understand some of the reactions early on in your thread. It is also a good link to have as you are really just starting your own career, these individuals are definitely out there, knowing how to identify them is helpful. I wish I had this list when I was your age, it would have spared me some experiences that shocked me and quite frankly hurt me tbh.

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