I think Perna has some really good ideas in her post!

For myself, I am only comfortable with a male therapist. No doubt this is because my mother was overbearing. It kind of turned me off to women having positions of power over me. And yes, it's clear to me that I think of my therapist in a father-figure role.

I think a lot of people just know what gender they want their therapist to be. If it isn't obvious to you, you may not have a strong preference. In which case you might work well with either. But I'd definitely consider some of Perna's points on the matter....

Sidony