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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
I hope you find this helpful. I am trying to consider everyone in the picture.
Get on birth control. Since you were shocked the first time your boyfriend impregnated you, it could happen again. Many people who have a baby think they are somehow not going to get pregnant again--but you can.
Make the necessary legal arrangements for your baby's father to support his child to the best of his ability. The child's well-being is important and having dad supporting the baby is best.
Take the steps necessary to get your life on track so you can make a happy home for yourself and the baby--with or without daddy. Education, work and home are the three things you need to focus on to make a good home for baby.
It's not all right that this man abandoned you. I'm not going to give him a pass on that. However, he is more likely to come back around if he thinks he will not have to be your entire and singular lifeline. Stop calling him other than to set up a time for him to see the baby once a week or whatever is practical.
If you can find low or no cost therapy, it will help you see your own intrinsic worth, help you overcome the effects of your parents' divorce and to be the best parent you can be, with or without a man.
Congratulation on the birth of your baby! All the struggle is worth it to have a child and I wish you the very best.  |
Thanks for keeping everything on perspective.
Im gonna have an operation so i dont have more kids.. i have 2, 2 bad relationships, i couldnt bare to do this again..
I already graduated, so my focus is work, and one day im going to an excercise class, which for me is a therapy, im really trying to do everything to keep my mind busy so i dont think of him, even this forum is helping me to write it all down.
For me a dad relationship is so important, i would even drive for him to be with her, but i shouldnt do that, i just dont know what else to do, and at first since im angry and hurt i said that i didnt wanted him to see her and all of that.. u know, a somehow typical reaction..
Its true that i should not call him, i try really hard, sometimes i dont resist but im trying! I might go to see him tommorrow though... wanted to talk to him... i want to get couples therapy, i was also gonna go to a lawyer tommorrow... but maybe if i just wait he could come back...
Thanks for your response and the hug, everytime i see my baby's eyes i knoe everything is worth it, and im sure it will get better! Its just hard to be on the waiting line