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Originally Posted by -jimi-
Not a nice thing to go through. But I have seen very similar patterns in relationships where the abuser was not a narcissist, but had an untreated mood disorder, had more stress than they could handle or lived in a marriage where divorce was not possible. Some people can get very vile if they are sick/stressed and feel like they are trapped in a relationship. I have actually seen people who have become healthy after being forced out of the relationship, had to grow and take care of themselves. Some people who seem like the dominant part in a relationship sometimes have severe issues with taking care of themselves.
I know narcissism is real, but also everything looking like narcissism is not.
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Borderlines also do these behaviors but Narcissistic and Borderline PD's go together very well and often people are NPD/BPD combos.
The odd thing is that my Narcissistic parent didn't even know she was a Narcissist or that she was doing any of these behaviors. She had all-encompassing unmet emotional needs and desired to get them met and these are the behaviors that came out of her mind. If you think of the mind as an instrument certain types of minds take a thought like, "I need to feel in control" and they produce these types of behaviors which inflict such damage on people close to them. The person doesn't know they're being manipulative, intimidating, aggressive or any of it, they just know they're trying to feel in control or feel better about themselves, the subconscious does the rest. The real villain is bad parenting and unmet emotional needs.