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Originally Posted by -jimi-
Not a nice thing to go through. But I have seen very similar patterns in relationships where the abuser was not a narcissist, but had an untreated mood disorder, had more stress than they could handle or lived in a marriage where divorce was not possible. Some people can get very vile if they are sick/stressed and feel like they are trapped in a relationship. I have actually seen people who have become healthy after being forced out of the relationship, had to grow and take care of themselves. Some people who seem like the dominant part in a relationship sometimes have severe issues with taking care of themselves.
I know narcissism is real, but also everything looking like narcissism is not.
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This is a good point because when someone struggles with PTSD they can express "some" of these behaviors, however, this is a "trauma" victim and "not" someone that is a narcissist. The PTSD sufferer could be traumatized, yet tangled in with others that have hurt them that "were/are" narcissists too or had expressed narcissistic behaviors toward the PTSD sufferer. I have done the rage that may "seem" to come out of no where, it is not out of no where, I am severely triggered. Often gaslighting is taking place or I am triggered to remembering gaslighting. Or I am accused of playing the victim when the reality is "I have been the victim".
I put this list up so I could write in how these kinds of behaviors have been done to me, and for me it's important because I don't like to "just" label another individual with NPD or who may be high on the narcissistic spectrum but perhaps not fully NPD.
Also, some behaviors may be due to a different challenge that "yes" does appear like it is narcissism. It could be someone struggling with Bipolar, or major depressive disorder, or even learning disabilities that challenge their self esteem or being able to hold their temper at times.