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Originally Posted by RedEagle
Borderlines also do these behaviors but Narcissistic and Borderline PD's go together very well and often people are NPD/BPD combos.
The odd thing is that my Narcissistic parent didn't even know she was a Narcissist or that she was doing any of these behaviors. She had all-encompassing unmet emotional needs and desired to get them met and these are the behaviors that came out of her mind. If you think of the mind as an instrument certain types of minds take a thought like, "I need to feel in control" and they produce these types of behaviors which inflict such damage on people close to them. The person doesn't know they're being manipulative, intimidating, aggressive or any of it, they just know they're trying to feel in control or feel better about themselves, the subconscious does the rest. The real villain is bad parenting and unmet emotional needs.
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Yes, this is what I feel about my older sister. She is manipulative, intimidating, and even gaslights because she needs to feel "in control" to feel better about herself. A person is "horrible" to her if she doesn't get/have the control somehow. Her constant reaction is "that was in that past" so forget about it that way she avoids answering or being responsible for her bad behaviors in the past.