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Originally Posted by NewLyfeForReal
It is difficult to discuss serious issues (like a marriage proposal) while not in person... I've been apart from my boyfriend for the past year out of a 4 year relationship, and I know the struggles very well - we've only seen each other for a few days 2 times - just like in your situation, it is a matter of completing degrees in different places.
When you start to horribly miss the person you love with all of your heart, you may get the tendency to overthink things (I've discovered this in myself). I'm not saying that you have overthought your issue in any way, however, it may be a good idea to continue the conversation only when you two are visiting each other. Any fighting over Skype or email, etc. turns out much more hurtful in the end as it gets prolonged more, in my opinion.
You are definitely right about that. I am also the type of person who easily obsesses about things and thinks them to death. I am also a futurist and constantly projecting my mind to thinking about the future, which in this scenario is extremely worrisome because I feel like I have no idea where this is all heading.
Adding to Bill3's good question above regarding how many times you two have visited, how has he acted during those times? In 5 months his 1 year work contract expires right, so will he return home or is there a possibility of an extension? If there is for an indefinite amount of time, are you in a position where you could relocate to where he now lives?
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I have seen him about 4 times since September. I visited him once in October shortly after he moved. It was a really sweet visit and he cried when I left (he is not the type of guy who shows a lot emotion, so this is significant). I also saw him on Thanksgiving and Christmas because our families both live in upstate NY, and get along extremely well (we often do holidays together). Then, I visited him in early February for his birthday.
Yes, essentially his contract expires in 5 months. At which point, he either decides to stay with the company and remain in NC or he must find a new job and move back north. As of right now, he said he has no idea what he is going to do. This obviously makes me feel extremely anxious because this process affects my life too. If he wanted to stay in NC, I wouldn't be opposed, but I won't uproot my life and move that far away without him demonstrating more commitment at this point.