Sometimes when I discuss my spirituality or beliefs it's to share usually, not to enter into an ordinary discussion. I recognize that's not always known by the reader.

When I make a regular post, I invite disagreement and even a good debate at times. I invite someone to "tell me like it is" from their experience, learning and perception. That's way cool!

However, most times when I post about spiritual beliefs and feelings, it's to share and to invite others in to say, "I understand," as they possibly share with me how and why they understand. It's the one time I don't want another to tell me that they think I'm wrong, that what makes me feel good and gets me through is inappropriate or inaccurate. It's mine! Just because it's mine, though, doesn't mean I don't want to share the beauty, doubts, etc.

In reading, I think that alot of others feel this same way. They want to simply share at times. They want a "limited discussion" at times that isn't flat-out asking questions, asking another to analyze or pick apart their feelings by demanding explanation, or an invitation for advice or criticism.

Maybe we could approach the sharing threads with a simple hug, a "Thank you for sharing", or nothing if we don't understand? We don't have to respond to every thread...

I just don't think it's up to us to question another's personal and individual beliefs. I'm pretty sure most of us have questioned ourselves to the hilt and back! Sometimes we come up empty when asking even ourselves those questions because spirituality is deeper than reason and comprehension. Some things "just are".

At times there's such a feeling of push/pull on this subject. Can those times end with each dropping their end of the rope and either meet in the middle or walk away from it, allow those needing the rope to use it freely?

Sometimes we may not realize that initial push/pull tug on the rope, but when we do it can be our individual choice to drop the line so that those that need to, or even self, can make use of the rope?

If you don't intend your response to cause tension in the rope, the best thing to do is drop your hold? There would be no resistance if there wasn't a hold at both ends? There is really no right or wrong here...

Maybe to help clarify what our intent is when making a post, we could add to the title "sharing" or "open discussion" to help direct posters in knowing what we're looking for? If a poster states they're just sharing, share back in agreement? If a poster says they're wanting open discussion, we could discuss the issue without heated argument, flames, and keeping in mind the original topic while keeping check of personal feelings reflected?

Just some thoughts...

KD