When I was dating my wife, she saw a stunning blonde at an ATM and said, "Oh my god; she's beautiful!: Yes I was naive and didn't connect the dots...until I was house sitting her cats and found a stack of adult mags, many depicting female on female sex, along with a picture of a young woman, dressed hiked up, no underwear, in high heels. And over time, my wife told about the time she got picked up by a group of young men in a pick up, during a snowstorm or how she used to go to bars to pick up men or how she liked to be tied up and butt fked. None of that kinky sex took place when we were dating and over the years, our sex/love life diminished. She also was a heavy drinker, plus verbally and emotionally abusive. Five years ago, I began to develop erectile dysfunction and diminished libido. Testosterone didn't help. I knew it was emotional damage from her abuse. To make my situation worse, I have severe treatment resistant bipolar and am on SSDI since June of 2011. But I'm a decent looking guy and women flirt with me. I'm not looking for a new wife or even a gf; just a woman who finds sex to be one of the great pleasures of life. I'll be 65 in May and under the right conditions, I can get things going, lol. Guess I'm still a shmuck.