Thinking about the link on the 8 signs. The thing about a narcissistic rage, in my experience, compared to a borderline rage, again in my experience, is the level of voice and things said. A borderline will bleeping blow their stack at you...narcissistic is opposite. Word play is insidious. The advice to remain quiet is a good one. Really, really listen to the words. Are they tearing you down in an intellectual manner? How does your husband leave you feeling about yourself after these post silent treatments is my question?