I knew when my daughter mentioned it, saying she thinks she has it because of her father. I googled it though, "that's me too". I realized I have it because of my mother, my first husband and my current husband. My whole life has been walking on eggshells never know what will set the other person off. I was never physically abused or called names, but I would be accused of "being or doing" something wrong. I'd say something innocent and hear "don't ever talk to me like that again" or I'd accidently bump something and hear how inconsiderate I was. My current husband used to fly into door slamming rages. He eventually started taking Zoloft and the rages stopped. I still have the hypervigilence that I learned with him though.....how is he this morning, what is his mood, why is he quiet, did I say that wrong? So, basically I was berated and shamed my whole life and never knew when it was coming. My once saving grace was my father. He loved and respected me always.
Anyway, I read about it around 2 years ago and mentioned it to a therapist and my psychiatrist (I see him to get Adderall for ADHD and post West Nile fatigue). They listened to the history and confirmed it. My daughter has also been diagnosed officially (from my two husbands behavoirs mostly).