I think I understand. First, is there anything about them that bugs you. Remember that and if you were with them you would have to see it every day. (not to sound negative but it's a start anyways). Then realize it's not realistic (from the sounds of things if I understand?). Then find someone you can be with and do connect with. If no one now just think of that ideal person and just be happy they are out there somewhere. There's a bit more to it but let me know if you have more questions or if it doesn't/does work.