Wow, firelily, I'm at a loss as to why your therapist would think that you asking her to write something positive on a pillow you made is "breaking one of her boundaries." Jeesh, so many therapists accuse us of black and white thinking!! It's true that you can't force her to write something on the pillow but it seems pretty petty of her to refuse to help you create the transitional object she told you to come up with to help you stay connected to the work you were doing together. I guess if you had insisted that she provide you a pillow and put positive quotes on it, she might have had a point, but you do all the work, came up with a creative idea and actually put that creative idea into form. She should have been complimenting you on your creativity and follow through.

Also, I NEVER think that sarcasm from a therapist is okay. It's petty, childish and uncalled for in every situation. . . it isn't even acceptable as a response to a client's sarcasm. I wish you could have challenged her on HER childish behavior because that's what she demonstrated to you. Is there any chance you'd feel strong enough to go back to your next session and confront her on some of this silliness? I do understand if you don't feel comfortable doing that but if anyone deserves a good confrontation (done politely but pointedly), it's your therapist. Sorry she was such a tool!