hi azafadaza
yours is the exact situation as to why if i ever get into another relationship the man cannot have kids. I do not want to have to deal with a coparent. i would suggest looking around your area for a coparenting class to take. it will provide you with many of the answers you seek. dont worry about what is going on at her house. you have your house rules and he seems to be functioning well with them, stay focused on giving him a healhty life when he is with you so he can see what that entails. when we instill our morals and values in our children, they will hopefully carry those over into the other household. as for your BF, he needs to get some counseling to address his issues so they dont negatively impact your relationship. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome