I am 65 and retired now, have money so can do what I want, etc. It is not at all like the daydream. I had desk jobs 30+ years to earn my living and only enjoyed parts of one or two. What would I do differently if I knew what I know now?

I'd do more of what I enjoy. I did have a 5- to 10-year period in the mid-90's where my jobs were free-lance and taken deliberately for my own purposes and that suited me better. Invent your own life and then find jobs that fit in with helping you learn something you want to learn, etc. Make the job deliberate -- I'm not talking about a calling or specific type of work but having your "Self" and who you want to be and then adding in a job(s).

Have you ever read Nickel and Dimed? Nickel and Dimed - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia One of my degrees is in Sociology and the whole concept of being a Sociologist and taking on the project to write the book, etc. is what I'm talking about. She never became the minimum-wage person she was portraying, even though she lived exclusively like one, because she was primarily the sociologist/writer doing a life experiment?

Just look at how you used "butler" for what you are doing for your parents instead of "care giver" or "house keeper"? Where did that come from? Use your imagination and day dreaming to help you live your Life in a creative way instead of trying to escape from it?