Well thank you everyone for your comments and thoughts. I hope it is appropriate for me to keep this thread open a little longer even though it doesn't appear she has bipolar. I just want to see if you guys might be able to point me in the right direction here. I know you cant diagnose but it is completely possible to speculate and maybe that can help me to figure out what I'm up against here.

For starters she is very open to seeking help and wants to see a psychyitrist which I know is good that she wants that. She has told me of some of her life traumas and quite frankly they're plenty and I have no doubt there is PTSD involved.

With all that said. Some asked if it is like she is bottling stuff up. YES. Its just like that. She'll sit there and let me make a mistake and not tell me about it until it causes damage and then blow up on me. But she'll blow up on me about a million different things and I'm left trying to defend my self and then right as I feel I've de-escelated the issue and gotten through to her she drops this mistake that she just simply let me make on me. For instance the other night we planned the day before going to bed I was going to go take a drug test for a job and come back and take our son out and she could stay at home and work on her writing. All is well the whole day but in the morning I noticed our son was sick so on the way to the lab decided she could just go to Starbuck with the computer and I'd stay home with him as he'd need rest. I texted her on and off throughout the day and then called her twice on the way home to see if she wanted something to eat. She didn't reply to anything. After I get the food in on the way home and she calls asking where I am. I tell her. She is disappointed with my choice of food etc and I can just like tell. Its bad. Which pisses me off that I'm getting into this bad habit TOO. So I pull into the house literally ten minutes later and she calls me I tell her I just pulled up and she asks me how it took me 30 minutes to get from there to here so I get frustrated and am like that's CRAZY.

So we end up getting into this huge fight about how I was gone all day I abandoned our son at home and he was like enotionally damaged or something. He's 2. And I mean she's freaking out. So I let her calm down she laying on the couch and I feel okay I can go talk to her because its been like 30 minutes and she's just laying there. So I'm talking with her about it making headway understanding what she's feeling and apologizing for certain things and figuring out what happened. It seems like its over. Its coming to an end. Then all of the sudden she drops this bomb about how she was supposed to go to the Medicaid office to renew our sons healthcare today and how I said j was going to wake up early in the morning and do what I needed to do which I didn't say.

But I'm sitting here just wondering why the heck she didn't bring that up when we were sitting next to each other planning the day and she just let me carry on with my plans without telling me that had to be done. And THEN blowing up on me after just blowing up on me. After that she got 100 times more irate she left the house. Came back. Left again. Came back. Practically badgered me onto leaving by making me feel like I was beating her with a belt or something when I was just trying to talk with her...

So yeah I'd say she bottles some stuff up and let's illogically puts peoples plans before her own and then blows up on them when they follow through. Okay. that was some venting. But I think it kind of sheds some light on the problem. And of course this is just my side. I can't really get much out about her side without causing world war 3...