Maybe I'm weird, but I prefer the "go with the flow" type approach. Probably because I know what my goals are and how to get there. My problem is taking the steps. I need my T to be a cheerleader for me, a sounding-board, a mirror, and a teacher. I need her to be supportive, but also to challenge me and push me. The rest I can do.

Though I don't necessarily need her to be a teacher, but I like learning new things so it's a plus.

But if someone needs the structure and/or specifics, I think it should be provided.