I am so sorry you had this kind of reaction from a therapist. I was in the same situation several times in therapy and I found it beyond just insensitive. It was traumatic for me. In some instances I did tell them that, in others I didn't. I found it helpful to tell them, even though I didn't like their responses. It was more important to me to let them know how they made me feel than to try to protect myself from their responses. Their responses were defensive and didn't make me happy, but I was still glad I told them how I felt. I would've felt worse if I hadn't. It was more about my need to speak up and to defend my dignity as opposed to the need to solicit a specific response from them. I hope this makes sense.