My first question is how old are you? Age difference can matter.

Though I wasn't for the best looking guy in the first place but who I find cute in my younger years on up. I notice a big difference in a guys appearance too after getting to know him. I can tell you when emotions connect the guy seems to have a certain glow about him that I love. I think a good personality is more sexy, than an attractive man that has no emotional connection to me.

But yes it can be more difficult looking for a guy with a good personality that you like and as attractive as you want. Nobody can say you can't do that for yourself. At the same time women in your shoes have met men who they would least expect to be with too.

I would say just wait and see where your mind takes you after more rest up with your last guy. Just focus on improving yourself for a bit and then take a look around.