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Originally Posted by eggplantlife
I don't know I just don't want to be around people anymore.
She was really mean mean and say about my karma. It got me real upset because so much bad things had happened. This thought came into my head that maybe, I will have actually good Karma from this because I actually helped her out. She just won't see that.
I've been in all my head trying not to think about it and move forward. Not being able to talk about it might be good or might not be.
I decided to write here because I guess, I couldn't keep it in my head.
I really am starting to feel wanting to go very far away from people.
There are really some nice people. I just can't seem to connect anymore.
I am trying to be okay with being myself.
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Dear eggplant,
Being OK by yourself is a wonderful thing, but it's nice to connect with us here too. I am glad you told us about your upset because I think it is an important clue. It is not widely known, but when people are depressed, the also often get hyper-sensitive to the slightest implicit criticism and it will cause them to be very upset for a long time. Depression has a big trick at this point that hides the underlying problem. It doesn't have anything to do with whether this person was mean intentionally or not or whether your feelings are justified or not or specifically what the person said or even whether the criticism is true or not. The problem is not the other person or your specific thoughts or feelings, the problem is HOW your thoughts and feelings are coming to you in general. Anyway, I don't know if you've seen it, but the notes on this link might help
http://forums.psychcentral.com/4369910-post130.html
- vital