So that raises the question - do you and your t have to be in agreement about how a client should be helped?

I think it just comes down to - you cant have your cake and eat it too. If you want a husband to pay your bills, then maybe you put up with a lot of bs. An aunt of mine, who i thought wasnt very smart and who was from the old country, said when i got divorced, "she doesnt have to put up with his bs because she has a good job." I was like, whoa! Its weird being alone, but its also weird living according to someone elses schedule, or compromising all the time. Idk. People are weird. I'll stick with books. Old books that were edited. Dead people are okay!