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Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987
Therapy is such a bizarre concept to me now. It seems so unnatural and so dangerous and so scary. I poured my heart out to someone and told this person things I will never tell anyone again and had never told anyone before. I was terrified these things would repulse him and disgust him so much he wouldn't see me anymore. I told him that. He said he would never do that. He would see me through to the end. He would never give up on me. He would never make me do anything I wasn't ready to do, but in the end it was all lies. He lied.
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puzzlebug: I feel for you. I went thru something quite similar. Do you plan to pursue this any further?
As Jeffrey Masson (former psychoanalyst) said: "Blaming the victim is the hallmark of psychotherapy".
Instead of blame I think in terms of accountability. My ex T accepted a small portion and left me with the rest by default. Subsequent Ts did the same. It became a process of systematic denial and invalidation.
As Masson also said, "torture victims often find the fact of not being believed as painful as the torture itself".
It took me 6 months of networking with others, reading, reflecting, and doing self-therapy to come out of the fog and see what happened.