It helps me to do a lot of "filling in the gaps," taking what I knew and envisioning what he didn't show and tell me.
I decided this guy needed to be seen as a towering authority figure, maybe in compensation for his ineptitude in more equal relationships. And I decided on some level the guy knew he was a fraud, pretending far more knowledge than the really had, pretending he had special powers to help people and read minds.
I've find in most areas of life that people with authentic knowledge and substance don't need to denigrate or control others.
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Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987
It's probably not healthy to read too much here, but I do it anyway.
I do think this was totally his issue and not mine. I did see another therapist (a decent one I think) for several months last year until he moved away. But we didn't talk about the old therapist or the unethical behavior.
I think people blame because of fear and stigma and when you're the "crazy" one it must be your fault somehow. Whatever. I just refuse to accept the blame anymore. I am also not blaming myself anymore. Most therapists disgust me.
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