Ok Seeyalater, you definitely have been in a confusing spin as well as trying to finish getting your masters. So, he said you would not understand unless he put you out of the house. Wow, he has not even answered that he had also put you "out" when he tricked you into signing away any rights to that house too, he was only surprised you found out about that. He is punishing you, abandoning you to gain power over you and "control", that is IMHO a red flag for NPD. He is also blaming you for "his" problems too, another bad sign Seeyalater. Now you have found a place you can go "if"?

He has not even appologized for "his" actions either, not good. Plus he gave you a chance to fill "his" needs and be intimate, but then he is off yet again. That is getting you into bad cycles of confusion that is going to hurt you Seeyalater, that is just not good for you, not healthy at all.

I think you need to read the two links I posted about narcissistic abuse again and think about it. You, live with this person, not all those who have been offering you support here including myself. NPD is born out of abandonment issues "most" of the time, and unfortunately, that may mean this "husband" is the kind of person that will punish others and blame them somehow and threaten with the silent treatment or abandoning them.

I am glad to hear you have an appointment with a therapist "for yourself", we are not professionals here, but have noticed red flags that are very problematic.

((Seeyalater)), this challenge "does" happen to nice young women, it's not their fault and they "do" get hurt and confused when it does happen. Some women stay to regain a time when things "seemed happier", they try to even "fix" the individual just hoping that will happen. I can say, I watched someone I love dearly go through this and I think I mentioned it in your thread, it did not end well and it did hurt her too.

As was advised before, do your best to finish your masters first, then as planned see a therapist and decide what your next move will be. You are very fortunate, you have a caring mother and a healthier family that will emotionally support you.

((Hugs))
OE