How many therapists have you seen before? It could be you're just not familiar with how therapy works? Therapists can seem a lot of things based on what our issues are and what they are trying to get one to "see"? I don't know how many sessions you've seen her for either; I'd put up with her awhile and discuss your impressions with her (as tactfully as you can :-) as she may have no idea of the effect she is having on you and how you are "taking" her. It could be very helpful to both she and you to discuss your problems with her. It's not a therapist's job to be kind and wishy washy as to what's what. I have yet to find reality to be less than mean and judgmental. "Fight or flight" is how we're made and it is darn hard to find a middle ground. But refusing confrontation when it is "necessary" and just flying has not always been the best response for me.