It gets better the older you get. Eventually you don't have to please others and you know yourself and your good and bad attributes and traits and what you like/don't like. I grew up in the 1950s and 60s when girls still "had" to wear dresses and jeans and tee shirts didn't even exist. I didn't fit in then either. My stepmother was not pleased because I didn't take care of my hair or wear makeup, etc. Hang in there, things do get better when you get away from your primary family and get to know "more" and varied people. You just don't fit in with your family, not the rest of the world! There's a place for you in the larger world and in that place you will fit perfect :-)