We broke up in January after 14 years. His alcoholism and depressions engulfed his world. It became a chaotic world of brief sobriety between rehab stays and hospitalizations. Every one scattered and I felt trapped. No longer in love but fiercely loyal I prayed that he could be successful and embrace some plan for sobriety. As I write he is on yet another bender. His new gift wants no part of it and I'm coaching him through to the goal...a month long intensive program for duel problems. All of this is draining me and deepening my mild depression. Hoping this site will give me feedback and support. My family is tired of this tale.