I'm 36 and still dealing wth this.I should have said my age at the start.Yes i'm a grown adult that has lived on her own since 1989.But my mom thinks i still need her help etc.I try not to please her any more. How can i stop from her nagging me?But i still want to please others not just my family.At jobs i had i'd work others shift and at times would be worn out and had no life.I listen to folks problems. But when i need help. Most turn their back on me or change the subject.I have told a few people.If all they are gonna do is call me with their problems and that's the only time they will call me.To not bother calling me at all. Then i got cussed out and also got called uncaring and mean.