You're welcome, Amuseable. I'm thankful for this site, too, and have learned a lot here as well!

I don't know if this is helpful or not, but the main counselor I had before this one was much different in the way he worked with me. We generally talked back and forth a good deal more. I'm not sure how to describe this, but he was much more supportive and encouraging when I was talking about difficult things. He did listen, and I was very aware that he was listening and hearing what I was saying - but it was a participatory sort of listening. Sometimes he would ask questions that would encourage me to say more, or he would say something that might make something clearer or help me rethink an issue...or even just be reassuring at times. I really appreciated that, and it helped me to stick with it. It didn't seem as scary and alone as it does now. The therapist I see now tends to just sit there, silent, and for me, I find that scary, similar to some of the feelings you described. In my situation - for this reason and others - I may be seeking another therapist. I do know that something else exists out there, and I've talked at length with my therapist about the difficulties in our relationship. So far, we haven't been able to work the issues out. I think we just may not be a good personality match, or the working approach he has isn't a good fit for me.

Anyway, Amuseable, I'm a little like you in that I often think when there are problems in a situation, it is my fault....but that isn't always true! I think at least in the case I'm currently experiencing with my T, it is probably at least 50/50 shared responsibility. I do have some problems that are complicating the working relationship, but my T is contributing towards the problems and has acknowledged this. It's not just me. I know I've written a lot about my situation in this post, but I guess I wanted to write this because it really can be true that the T is responsible for at least part of the difficulty when there are struggles in the working relationship. It may not be completely due to difficulties that you are experiencing on your side of things. Ts are humans too. ;-)

Thinking of you still, and wishing you all the best.....

Take care,
ErinBear