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Old Jun 20, 2007, 09:08 PM
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Sidony, I'm sorry you are having a hard time.

Group therapy is NOT for me. I have a few questions for you about social anxiety. These are questions for you to ponder and not answer to me or anyone else. I'm just trying to help you dig a bit.

My husband also has social anxiety and he refuses to acknowledge that or consider therapy. He went with me a few times and poof took himself out and refuses to go back. So these questions may have a slight bend on them but it may help you to think about them.

Is the social anxiety impacting functioning for you? Does it prevent you from achieving your goals? Personally and/or professionally?

You may not have gone into group to work on that but it's there. This may not be the group for you. There are support groups for social anxiety specifically or other types of groups that would be more beneficial for you.

I also agree with Alex. You are walking on eggshells but in a different way. If you were married would you feel comfy discussing your needs? or would you keep it to yourself and feel empty and withdrawal from your partner? or can you state what you need in a relationship and keep pushing if your needs go unmet?

You mentioned that your relationships are amiable. Is this because the relationships are more friend-like than a deep emotional connection? Have you unconsciously been avoiding emotional connections?

Just some things to think about. Are you reluctant to terminate group because you go to your T for both group and individual and are afraid of his disappointment?

If you are, you are staying in a situation out of fear then you are not getting your needs met.

I hope this doesn't come off harsh. I want to help but I am doing work stuff too...so it may come off kind of blunt


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