HOkie! This is a tough one! We are always told we have to forgive but I believe in order to fully forgive you have to forget. And to forget is not easy. To build up trust again is a long and hard road and can only be accomplished if both partners work at it. If he does not remember what he has done, how would you heal the relationship? How does he explain the existence of the phone and the numbers/messages. Perhaps a therapist could answer and help. I am sorry I cannot offer any more.