My T really got on a mindfulness kick a few years back, and the way he does it and was communicating it to me, just did not work for me AT ALL. I did humor him and read a book he recommended, but I found the methods as they were explained very contrived and unnatural to me. I don't respond well to things that feel unnatural to me, so I pretty much forbade him to bring it up anymore because the whole topic completely stressed me out.

I have discovered my own methods for calming my "self." They work for me even though they probably don't fit official mindfulness models. I've found ways to recognize when I am tense and ways to relax that physical and mental tension that work for me, and as far as I'm concerned that is enough for me.