LucyD, nothing in your posts indicates to me that there is any redeeming value in meeting with this counselor.

Here are suggestions on how to find a therapist
Dr. Grohol's Psych Central - How to Choose a Therapist

psychcentral.com/blog/archives/.../10-ways-to-find-a-good-therapist/

psychcentral.com/.../how-to-find-a-good-mental-health-counselor/

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Many people who are actively involved in Psych Central find it helps take them out of their own problems to develop empathy for others. And their problems though still there are more manageable.

Some people find the forums give them the compassion and empathy they seek. http://forums.psychcentral.com

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